Weed. And. Cigarettes.
So I went out this guy, not in a relationship.. Yet. Then he told be he smoke… Both. Well, I’m a girl who grew up educated about drugs and alcohol abuse and I volunteer with a antismoking group… And I have never thought of dating a smoker. Worse yet, a weed smoker -__-
he said he only does it once every 2 weeks or so. But I don’t care, smoking is smoking. And weed is illegal. I’d call myself a good and innocent girl at heart, no matter what others say… So when he said this, oh em gee… He’s the first guy I kissed, did I save my first kiss for this guy that turns out to be a smoker??
Anyways, I hate for it to come down to “me or weed” situation. I didn’t even like him at first, but I guess through our talks the bond grew?? Idk, but then dropping that news on me just killed it. He’s “addicted” to me, more than I’m to him, but is it fair to ask him or anyone to quit something, a habit.., for you? I told him to not feel pressured, and I dont want him to change something for me..
:-/
Chosen Answer:
He won’t quit smoking the cigarettes or the weed. He is his own person and he will do what he wants. He might quit for awhile if you ask (nag?) him… but he’ll pick it back up again later on. Sounds like you two are in your teens, so if he is smoking now, he most likely will be smoking again in his 20s. That’s kind of how smoking goes. I have experience with this.
But there must have been something more that you liked about this guy that you had him be your first kiss. So you were able to look past the smoking part then, right? He is more than just – the smoking. I think you like him a lot to have gone out with him in the first place. If you were SO anti-smoking, you would never have kissed this guy. Like kissing an ashtray… as they say…
If you like him that much then look past it. Ask him not to smoke around you (perfectly reasonable request) and just continue to date him. Chances are the relationship won’t work long term anyway, so why not have fun going out with him now?
